Dear Dr Orange,
Is it ever acceptable to tell a man you love him before he tells you? I REALLY need to know this…

Dear I LoveMeSomeHim,
I do think it is acceptable to tell a man that you love him before he tells you. BUT! i do also believe that there is a time and a place to tell a man that shit… DONT tell him right after you give him some head… because you might get lied to. DONT tell him during sex… because you might get lied to… or fuck off some ass lol.. As a matter of fact… dont tell him during anything sexual at all. Because if that man is in the mood to get some ass… youre gonna fuck around and get lied to lol. AND Please DONT tell him when he is pissed off at you and you are trying to get out of whatever bind youre in. That there is some punk ass shit. When you tell him… make sure you guys are just having a general conversation about any ol thing… if you are slick like that… maybe you can move the conversation in the way of ” feelings ” and then come with what you have to say. Or, hey… if youre not slick like that… fuck it… just say the shit one day… just stop that muthafucka in his tracks… like look here homie, this is how i feel about you ( please note, that it might be wise to make sure you have time to talk about the way you feel after you tell him ). But please please please… dont beat around the bush… that shit is irritating… be clear and clear and clear some more. Get it out in the open. It might be hard… and it probably will be scary. But you really have nothing to lose. Because if he loves yo ass back. Then only good things can happen after that. If he doesnt… weeelllll thats on YOU, and if YOU can deal with that or not. some people can. some people cant. YOU are gonna have to make that choice. if he doesnt… its not so bad… he is clear on how YOU feel now, and that takes out alot of guess work…. chances are… you telling him how you feel about him will open him up some. and might get him to trust you with his heart eventually. it all depends on yalls relationship. shit… you might even get more head, or a bill paid or someshit now lol who knows? But… be warned… you could be with some muthafucka who is scary… and you telling him how you truly feel about him will scare his punk ass off! this… is not as bad as it seems… you know why? Because he was a bitch in the first place… and you didnt mean all that much to him. isnt it better to know sooner than later… or before he accidentally gets yo ass pregnant or some shit and you are stuck with some asshole who does not love you and doesnt share the same emotion you do? So this is why i say…. you dont have shit to lose. Because either he loves you back ( or will eventually ) or he will get scared and leave… in which case… you didnt need to be with him anyway. Now… option 2 ( dude leaving ) might suck… but in the long run, you will be better off. As a matter of fact… you will be better off either way it goes. Guess work in relationships SUCK! unless you can read minds, of course. i think people should be open about how they feel and talk things out, or else somebody is gonna get hurt.